That is the title for Doug Wilson’s most recent post as he continues to work his way through reviewing the Driscoll’s latest book, Real Marriage. A couple quotes to tempt you to read…

On his overall view of the book:

Let me begin by saying that it is a very fine book over all.

Before getting to the sections that call out for more discussion and some yeahbuts, let me mention first why this book is going to do a lot of good. I have been  counseling couples for 35 years or so, and am happy to report that the Driscolls lay a firm gospel foundation for marriage, they understand the centrality of love and respect for men and women respectively, they are ruthless with some of the central marriage busters (bitterness, porn, selfishness, etc), they do not allow the realities of past abuse to become an excuse for sin, and they are transparent about their own failings without falling into the TMI trap. All in all, very well done. As I was reading, I kept thinking of couples who would be helped by it.

But then, opening the way for concerns, this gem:

Ah, but that’s not why you are reading this, are you? There are several pages, and several sections of advice that are mistaken and unfortunate. And of course, this sort of thing is like finding a caterpillar in your salad. The fact that the overwhelming majority of the salad is still perfectly fine does not serve to allay your concerns. You still have words with the waiter.

I highly commend this commentary to you. It is an excellent example of measured criticism, while offering alternative ways of addressing the issues raised. Further, Wilson shows great skill in handling and gently applying the Scriptures to the topic at hand, as well as to those who raised the issue.